SMILE AGAIN – it can happen! represents this past decade of my life. This decade involved navigating family challenges, repair, getting back on ‘the roller coaster,’ feeling discarded and trying to repair again, as I faced the many diverse and complex realities of estrangement.
This workbook includes most of my observations and lessons, recorded in my journal, turned into strategies and tools anyone can apply. I include basic and profound take-aways, revealed through reflection.
I offer some of the insights that the people I work with, as a life coach, tell me supported their desire to heal as they looked into their future and didn’t want to be sad anymore. Each told me they knew it was time to be strong enough to restore the relationships that matter most to them; including the relationship with themself. How inspiring! I agree.
There is nothing angry here – no venom, no profanity and only best wishes, with a significant dose of reality, logic, reason, purpose, analogies and a few surprises.
Thank you for joining me in this part of my journey we call life. Email contact@drddmann.com to book your 45-minute gratis coaching video call. I am happy to adapt to time zones and different days times.
Talk soon and take care loved ones.
Dee Dee
Coaching is not counseling or therapy. Therapy can be a helpful experience so please seek therapy instead of my coaching services if you need to discuss feeling depressed or despondent. However, if you would like a sounding board who offers communication strategies and tools to explore self-discovery, I am here to try to understand and support you in your estrangement journey.
Are you having difficulty focusing at work? Does your estrangement pain create a sense you are split in two? The "employee" side of your life is successful and accomplished (your work SELF) and the "parent" side of your life feels like a failure? If your estrangement has shaken you to your core, it will send shockwaves that reverberate beyond your home, especially with your role at work.
The discipline of empathy is just that; discipline of the heart, mind and actions to foster authentic connections. Estrangement breaks down connection. Learning how to accept the choices of a loved one who intentionally has cut you off requires intense commitment to empathy and other essential markers of emotional maturity.
Smile Again presents a comforting opportunity to SHIFT our mindset from Sorrow to Strength; Helplessness to Hope; Isolation to Identity; Fear to Faith and Turmoil to Trust.
Together we will explore strategies, tools and ideas to begin to overcome the stigma, grief, ambiguous loss and the many strong emotional dynamics associated with the shock and pain of estrangement.
Empathy is a powerful force which can transform the many aspects of estrangement to move towards engagement. Empathy is essential to reconnect, build trust, reconcile and restore important family relationships. My strategies offer effective interpersonal solutions to move through grief to build resilience and get back to contentment.
Overview: The ETC Challenge is the twelve-week Estrangement Transformation Coaching Challenge. If you are ready, join me, as I facilitate group coaching. You may prefer individual coaching and this is also possible. Come learn to SHIFT your mindset, heartache and volition towards healing. SHIFT is a wondrous journey!
I can help you develop a clear and actionable plan for moving beyond the strong emotions associated with estrangement to arrive at a better place.
I provide resources as a means to self-discovery to support your journey of estrangement.
Working together, you will identify and hopefully overcome what is holding you back in grief, or other complex emotions.
Here are some of the organizations that I have helped over twenty-plus years. Now, my professional impact will focus on supporting new coaches through The Coach Approach Training Academy. I will continue to increase interpersonal effectiveness in the workplace by customizing and offering coaching programs, by request. Providing guidance around how to navigate the challenges within estrangement is a significant new priority of my coaching, training and public speaking work.
Coach education is designed and delivered to build competence and maintain ethical standards in the coaching profession. Coach education involves professional training, certification and other forms of high-quality professional development.
Estrangement is currently an epidemic in several countries. The recent research of Dr. Joshua Coleman estimates approximately one-in-four families are facing some kind of familial discord, parental alienation and other painful forms of estrangement. Decades ago, Dr. Pauline Boss researched ambiguous loss, which is a hallmark of the many unresolved elements of estrangement, similar to the emotional torture of times of war, abduction or similar forms of disappearances (when someone is missing from your life and you do not know if a person is dead or alive). If someone is fortunate enough to be unfamiliar with the emotions associated with estrangement, they can underestimate the toll this agonizing experience can take on people, at the receiving end of someone they love going “no contact,” (with or without an explanation). Dr. Dee Dee Mann has endured over a decade of several forms of estrangement and has written several original coaching methods that will be taught in this track.
The Core Fundamentals of Coaching is foundational to understanding what distinguishes coaching and coaching skills from other essential interpersonal abilities and professions that are dependent on proficiency in communication. Come as you are to begin explore the basic, intermediary and advanced coaching skills.
Whether you are enjoying a career in coaching or your employer is sponsoring this learning, you will learn all facets of the proprietary Coach Approach mindset and skillset. The Coach Approach describes the importance of a coaching mindset to embody and emulate trust as you actively listen to others. Also, internalizing the best practices of coaching will ensure you always maintain presence to awaken awareness in those you work with to foster growth and development.
The core fundamentals will also explore the theory and precepts that defined coaching as a practice and profession, especially the importance of establishing and maintaining agreements at all phases of your coaching engagements. Core Fundamentals also distinguish coaching from therapy, psychiatry, counseling, consulting and coaxing. The Core Fundamentals of Coaching will equip you will high-impact knowledge, skills and abilities that are ICF-aligned to set you apart in whatever way you seek to coach. The distinctions this coaching program includes the two coaching tracks: Estrangement and Career Transition as well as the design and delivery of the curriculum.
